How can I Deal with my Parents' Remarriage?

The day Dad married Rita was the worst day of my life. I was mad at Dad for being a traitor to my Mom. Mad at Mom for going off to law school and leaving us alone. Mad at the 2 brats, Rita's kids, who were going to come live in our house...But most of all, I was mad at Rita....I hated her. And because I believed it was not right to hate, I was mad at myself, too.
THE remarriage of a parent destroys the hope that your parents will ever get back together. It can make you feel insecure, betrayed, and jealous.
The remarriage can be particularly hurtful if it comes on the heels of the death of a beloved parent.  The death of one's parents can make them turn very bitter or depressed. I thought my father's fiance was going to take my mother's place so I was very mean to her. Loyal to your natural parent, you may even feel guilty if you feel love toward a stepparent.
Little wonder, then, that many youths vent their emotional pain in destructive ways. Some even scheme to break up their new parent's marriage. But remember, your natural parent and stepparent have exchanged vows before God. Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man (or child) pull apart. And even if you could break them up, this would not reunite your natural parents.
Nor does it make any sense to conflict a stepparent. He who brings trouble on his family will only inherit wind, that is end up with nothing. What you do to break up your parents' marriage may get you nowhere.